self promises

Here are some writing prompts to prepare for the full moon self promise ceremony. (Becky created the video above to help a group of women in Spring of 2014.)

Celebrating Your Self Love: Wedding Vows

Breathe in. Breathe out. Put your arms around yourself and hold your own powerful body. Embrace yourself fully with love, compassion, and kindness.

Here is a set of writing prompts to guide you to create your self love promises/self wedding vows. On Wednesday, March 20, 12:30 Pacific we will come together in our Sisters’Sacred Circle to share our personal vows and witness each others’ self promises and love. Together we share our vows/essays/promises, from our journals, or directly from the heart and the moment.

There are NO rules as to what you should say or commit to yourself. Listen to your heart’s longing and highest wishes for yourself. You can make these come true.

In addition to your promises, you are invited to bring any poems or essays to share before or after the vow portion of our Circle.

Before considering yourself, consider this: If you could be paired with a wonderful match–the perfect partner for yourself–what would you want from that person?

How would that person make you feel?

What qualities would be most important to you?

How would you know you were loved, respected and cared for?

Answer these questions about someone else.


Now put yourself in the mirror, you are your perfect partner–the object of your own love, affection and desire. In the ways you show up for yourself, perhaps you might go through those questions again, self-reflection.


What do you look to other people to give you? Approval, acceptance, kindness, love, attention, positive affirmation?

What if –by promising these things to yourself– you could free yourself of any external emotional dependency, and you could satisfy your own longing …. All by YOURSELF?

What do you love about YOU?

What are you good at?

What do you enjoy?

What do you most admire about yourself?  

What was the most challenging personal experience you have ever faced? How did you take care of yourself and get yourself through?

Your personal attributes make you worthy of love, care, and kindness. Why give yourself love?

Honor your imperfections and see how they have served your life so far.

 Think about the traditional “couple” wedding vows: promises to love, honor, respect, cherish a partner, in sickness and in health, in abundance and in scarcity.  

What in these promises feels good for you to promise to yourself?

 Begin to share favorite quotes, poems or short essays that personally inspire you. These soft feathers and inner promises now begin to build with our New Moon heart intentions, hour by hour, day by day, until we gather to perform our ceremony and celebrate together. Make these promises and your self-wedding ceremony something to remember.

 Love! Love! Love! Becky and Gail